“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.” ~A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

Friendships and love relationships, like the waves of the ocean are ever-changing,  shaping, bringing in treasures, taking out debris, pulling you under, lifting you up, tossing you about, giving you opportunity to be brave, allowing you to float and be supported…

Where would we be without the loving guidance of those who trust and give to us without question? But even some deep-seated, long-term relationships require “a little death” in order to grow and evolve.

I have come to look at my relationships with people and experiences as a piece of fruit (hmm, back to nature), let’s say, a peach because I too bruise easily. It starts as this bud on a limb, full of hope and promise. Those who observe it see the potential and smell the sweet anticipation of a successful bloom. The bud turns to flower, the flower to fruit which takes however long it takes to ripen and reach its full capacity. The life span of the fruit is metaph0rically short compared to the potential life span of the relationship. Nevertheless, both experience a similar evolution.

I can feel  the “fruit ripening”  in a relationship and when it’s time to move on. When I have listened and responded in kind, it is a graceful transition-like someone plucking the peach and making it into a pie: a lovely “little death”. But when I ignore the message and linger too long on the branch, the relationship, whether with person or experience,  begins to sour and rot, dropping to be re-consumed by the earth: a not-so-lovely “little death”.

Either way, the transcendence is inevitable. All we can do is listen for the intuitive message and allow for the evolution. Fighting the “little death” is fruitless (no pun intended), but when embraced, renewed, new, better friendships, love relationships and experiences are revealed.