I drove into work this morning and as I approached the highway at a RED LIGHT, I stopped before turning right. Well, turns out the guy behind me didn’t want to stop and bumped my bumper – what is it about people wanting to crash into me lately?! What is it about people who feel the rules don’t apply to them?! Only a soft nudge, I was fine. I pulled over to the side and turned on my emergency lights. Looked to see where Mr. Impatient would pull over, only instead I watched him drive away! Hmm. Now this is happening.

Was it an unrealistic expectation to believe that he would pull over? No, I don’t think so. I sat for a moment in disbelief and disappointment for humanity, went out to check the minor paint scratch and drove on. That happened.

Without any expectation for what is supposed to occur, there is no disappointment. Without dramatic reaction to events, all that is left is the event itself. I continue to work on this release of great expectations for self and other as I practice simply noticing and responding. Noticing and responding. Noticing and responding.

This ebb and flow of riding the waves of reality is a much less bumpy ride than the one of expecting, judging and reacting. I spent years expecting my friends to be as loyal and giving as I was; employers to be fair; citizens to do the right thing. All were simply fantasies made up in my mind, nothing to do with reality, setting me up for constant disappointment. Now, after years of practicing yoga, friends can still be ungrateful, workmates inequitable and citizens completely disrespectful, but my relationship to it all is softer and without much expectation to be anything other than the perfection that it is.

“Experience is not what happens to you, it’s what you do with what happens to you.”

-Aldous Huxley