I remember before marriage and kids, I went on dates and had a couple of boyfriends (always the long-term monogomous type).  We would go out and do many things: tour the city for the day, weekend away, maybe just brunch, theatre, small dinner party with friends… Before bed, at the end of these wonderful, fun-filled and often exhausting days,  I would insist on sitting with my mate and reviewing the day’s events. We would go through each detail remembering not just the highlights, but also the silly things, the seemingly meaningless moments, the words of friends and strangers, all of it part of our experience.  “Ok, let’s review,” I’d say.  We would sit on the edge of the bed or couch and recount, laugh and share the experience all over again. The review might spark coversation or even initiate a disagreement of how things really transpired.  It proved to be a way to connect with this person twice; first through the experience itself and second by communicating and recounting the experience.  Afterwards I would feel ready to drift into sleep, satisfied and comforted.

The art of the review has taken its shape at my dinner table now.  With my husband and two boys, when we have the luxury of sitting down together (which I insist upon most nights despite everyone’s hectic schedules), we talk about our day.  My youngest one is alwayst the one to ask, “So, Dad, how was your day?”  “What about you, Mom?”  And the review commences. 

For me, there is something so comforting to recap what has been, just briefly, if only to make it more real, to engrave it more deeply into our life.  Life that is so fleeting and transient beckoning to be caught by the tail, if just for a few moments through the interpretations of each individual.

As we come to an end of another year, I am feeling sentimental and in need of the big review.  Taking some time to reflect on loved ones who passed, finding appreciation for the lessons learned, renewing love for those close by and far away, all ways to rekindle and rewrap the gifts of my life.

As you look back on your year, I wish for you to dwell on and hold close that which made you stronger and brought you closer to Truth and created a feeling of wholeness and love.

Happy holidays and all the absolute best for the coming year.

Another fresh new year is here…

Another year to live!

To banish worry, doubt, and fear,

To love and laugh and give!

 This bright New Year is given me

To live each day with zest…

To daily grow and try to be

My highest and my best!

 I have the opportunity

Once more to right some wrongs,

To pray for peace, to plant a tree,

And sing more joyful songs!” 

-William Arthur Ward