My older son is very active.  He held his head up on his first day of life, constantly kicked his feet in the high chair and learned to rollerskate while still in diapers.  He continues now to be not only a stellar academic, friend and son, but an excellent athlete as well.

When he was a baby-he was walking at 9 months- he was extremely busy and always wanted to play ball.  His first word was ball, pronounced, ba-boo-ba.  Akin to dad-i-da and ma-mi-ma.  We lived on the east coast (I  wonder as I write, if the fact that he was born in Hoboken, home of baseball {and Frank Sinatra}, set the tone for his now fierce commitment to the sport.  Anyway, he was busy, busy, busy and by evening, we were tired, tired, tired.

My husband and I instilled a rule which we upheld for many years to come which was at the strike of 7:00pm it was time to be Cool and Breezy.  This meant soft music, books, cuddling and general low-key to no activity.  Transitions are important to children, and it was important for all of us to set the tone toward the beloved bedtime!

This served us all well and when our second son was born, the tradition continued and really helped us all stop and create a calm environment in which to relax. 

Adults could do with a little imposed Cool and Breezy.  I observe so many lives racing forward or in circles without the ability to stop and create a calm environment.  They complain of sleeplessness, physical ailments and mental distress.  How many stop at some point, take a break from the imposed demands of life and insist on their own transition time or reflection time or time to just stop kicking in the high chair and throwing the ball?  Not enough. 

Being active feels good, I’m extremely active and I enjoy getting things done, but if we never add a window to our schedule to be Cool and Breezy, we may infuse the entirety of our lifes with doing and never experience just being. Deepak Chopra has been quoted as saying, “We are human beings, not human doings.” 

One of the many reasons I love the yoga practice is that it teaches us the ability to feel Cool and Breezy even while we are engaged in busy-ness.  We can feel relaxed and calm as we hold ourselves up in tree pose, or we can worry and wonder when we will fall (in that case, of course, we fall). Off the mat we can resist the inevitable, push against the machine and feel stressed, or we can allow for things to be as they are and yield to the flow of events. 

But if we don’t impose a little Cool and Breezy time, we cannot know the feeling of what it is to yeild, and therefore have little chance to feel that way in the middle of a traffic jam. 

Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.

~Pooh’s Little Instruction Book, inspired by A.A. Milne